Things are the way they are and you can’t do anything to get around that. “Ah, but you can!” —you might say. Why yes, in many cases you can indeed do something. And then what will things be like?
Hopefully things are now in a different way, but whatever happens, whether you succeed or not: things are the way they are —again. “OK then, things are the way they are. But you can change the way they are to the way that you wish them to be!”. It’s true, that is sometimes the case. But sometimes it is not. This is the way things are, and there is nothing you can do to change that.
“Oh, come on! You’re just being difficult for the heck of it”. Do you really think so?
“…well yes”. Then I guess that is the way things are.